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December 29, 2012

How To Breakup

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It doesn’t matter if you’ve been dating for one year or one month – it is essential that you breakup with sensitivity. This person was important enough to you to make a commitment to, and this person deserves respect, regardless of your reason for splitting. Here are some tips on how to breakup and approach it with a gentle touch:

Never…

-          Breakup with them before a special event or an occasion they’ve been looking forward to. For example, if Valentine’s Day is two weeks away, just stick it out. It’s cruel to do it before some event they are looking forward to spending with you.

-          Tell them when they just got other bad news. You can’t control if they’re having a bad week, but if something big happens like their dog dying, wait a week or so. Those are times when they need your friendship and emotional support

-          Embarrass them. You may not have meant to, but posting things about your breakup or brand new squeeze, right after a very public ‘change in status to single’ is a form of humiliation to the other person. Never publicly disclose details about why you broke up- save those for your close friends, if anybody. Also, hold off on too much flirting with another person on a platform that both you and your ex’s friends can read, at least until some time passes.

Always…

-          Aim for making a positive last impression between you guys. Start off with indirectly blaming yourself for not being more attentive to the relationship. This prevents those feelings of pain and resentment they may feel against you.

-          Keep the apologies at a minimum. Avoid coming off as condescending by putting a limit on the amount of times you find yourself saying sorry. Be polite but don’t sugar coat the bad news.

-          Be vague. Don’t elaborate too much on the reasons for breaking up, unless they ask for a more detailed explanation, in which you should still keep it thoughtful rather than an attack on their character- Remember, if you’ve been together a long time, you may be obligated to divulge more behind your decision.

After the breakup

The central goal of breaking up is to stay on friendly terms with the other person. This means that you guys aren’t itching to delete one another off your contact list and you truly want the best for each other. It’s a bonus if you guys can have a lifelong friendship too. Keep the other person’s feelings in mind throughout the process, and you’ll be much more likely to maintain a good relationship after the breakup.





About the Author

Samantha Daniel
Samantha Daniel is a Colorado native, attending Metro State University majoring in technical communication, with emphases in writing and editing. Her passion for relationships, dating, and romance unfolds in her articles.




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