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July 18, 2013

Why Your Dating Checklist Doesn’t Work

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Lately, too many single women have been making lists of what they want and don’t want in a man and a relationship. But do those actually work, or are they turning away possible love matches because of these extensive lists?

I have seen so many women pass up good men because either they are too short, have the wrong hair color, have kids, were divorced, etc. They crossed off every man that came their way that did not match their list to a tee.

All you ladies out there that make these lists and check off men that don’t match up are more than likely still single … but you don’t have to be! Screw the list and take a chance on someone who may be two inches shorter than what you want. After all, it can’t hurt to give it a try.

Lists can work to an extent but to use them as an “all or nothing” type deal will not work most of the time. Many of the things on their checklists are inconceivable and unattainable. To think that one person will have fifty to a hundred things on your list is insane! What would you do if the men started making a checklist and the guy you wanted rejected you because you didn’t fit his criteria? Wouldn’t you be disappointed by this?

Of course, you can expect the normal things that a man should possess such as being nice, sweet, generous, courteous ect. But to put on your list his height, weight, job title and his hair color is just a time consuming stunt that won’t work out 99% of the time. There is always going to be a deal breaker for people and that is fine if, for example, you want to cut your losses when the guy doesn’t have a college degree or he has children or was divorced.

To include the superficial reasons on why you won’t date someone in this impossible list, however, will undoubtedly render you single for a very long time.





About the Author

Christy Goldstein
I am a relationship and sex columnist, focusing on dating successfully, how to get over break ups and bad dates. I also counsel clients on how to be in a healthy relationship. Helping them overcome problems they may have with their relationship or any learned behaviors they want to change. I currently live in Columbus, Ohio. I am also working writing a relationship and dating book for women and men.




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