Recently, my life has become pretty hectic. School is in full swing and I received a very exciting job opportunity that I couldn’t pass up. While everything has been going well, I’ve also been struggling with the panic of worrying about “doing life correctly.” While some of these feelings are definitely normal feelings for a twenty-something nearing the end of her undergraduate work, they ‘re also the result of neglecting my need for rest and reflection, some well-deserved me time. I decided to cancel my weekend plans and make some time for myself to reflect or just be quiet.
Part of being able to keep your sanity is to take time for yourself. Whether you are single or in a relationship, alone time is important. But why is it important, how can you know if you need some time to yourself, and how the heck to you fit it into your crazy life?
Why It’s Important
If you’re constantly on the go, you’re probably doing so much that you don’t have much time time to actually consider what you’re doing. Eventually all of the things that you’ve had to make decisions about will creep back up on you and when they do, you might panic about the choices you’ve made. They might not even be bad or incorrect decisions, but simply not taking the time to reflect on them may bring you some anxiety. Also, never taking time to think and breathe might actually cause you to make poor decisions. Making time for yourself can be good simply because to allow yourself to relax and keep your cool while you shoulder through the stress.
Do You Need Some Me Time?
If you find yourself upset or hating things that you normally love, you need to make some time for yourself. If you’re feeling extremely overwhelmed or exhausted, it might be a good idea to set some time aside. If you find yourself unhappy when you know or feel you shouldn’t be, make a decision to fix that. Only you can make sure that you’re taken care of.
Making the Time
To restore your peace of mind, you actually don’t have to do much. Take as much time as you can allow in your schedule. Maybe you can only fit in a couple of hours a week on Saturday night. Take it. Seriously, take it. Order in, give yourself a nice spa night, or settle down with a glass of wine and let yourself zone out to some trashy television for a while. You don’t need to do anything extravagant to spoil yourself. Maybe you decide to go get a manicure on a free afternoon between meetings or classes. Do what you need to do to take care of you.
Taking care of yourself is important, regardless of your relationship status. If you’re in a relationship and feel like you need some alone time, let your partner know. They shouldn’t be upset about this request. They should want you to be happy and stress-free. And if you are single, just do it. You will feel so much better.