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December 3, 2013

5 Signs You’ve Fallen Out of Love


I recently wrote an article on ways you can reignite the spark in your relationship. It discussed how something may cause a relationship to take a turn for the worse, but it’s unknown why. Some couples are able to work through their issues because they both want to make the relationship work. For others, however, the problem can’t be fixed…the spark has flickered out.

Some relationships, no matter how much you try, can’t be fixed. You might still love and care for your significant other, but you can’t say you’re in love with them. Those feelings may be hard to come to terms with, but for the sake of both of your feelings, they need to be brought to light. If, all of a sudden, you are thinking this current relationship may not be the perfect one for you, take a look below and see if you fall into any of these categories.

Commitment scares you.

When you’re in a happy and fulfilling relationship, all signs should steer to long-term commitment. You’ll want your families and friends to mix and mingle and you’ll look forward to starting a life with this person down the road. If you don’t see yourself living a great life with this person, it’s time to reconsider the relationship. Relationships are about moving forward together and if you can’t (or don’t want to) see that happen, you need to express your concerns and decide if the relationship is worth fighting for.

You’re too busy all of a sudden.

When you’re in a happy and fulfilling relationship, you love spending time with your significant other. Making plans and scheduling date nights are something you look forward to. When you no longer get excited by the thoughts of seeing your loved one, then something is definitely wrong. If you find yourself making more and more plans that don’t include your partner, you may be subconsciously starting the move towards a breakup.

You provoke fights.

When you’re in a happy and fulfilling relationship, you try your hardest to avoid fights, especially over small, insignificant things. Who really wants to waste the time and energy on a fight? The answer to that question is a person who may be questioning their relationship. Of course, fights may break out every now and then, but it’s a different thing if you’re always the one starting them. If you find yourself getting annoyed at the most ridiculous things and can’t find it in yourself to stop doing that, you really need to sit down and evaluate your current situation.

You avoid intimacy.

When you’re in a happy and fulfilling relationship, you want to be intimate with your loved one. The definition of intimacy may vary by relationship, but no matter what it entails it should be something you enjoy. Maybe it’s sex or maybe it’s just snuggling up to your loved one and having some alone time to chill out. When that desire for intimacy stops you have a major problem. If you find yourself avoiding intimate moments with your loved one or if you just don’t find those moments enjoyable anymore, you need to question why that is. Is the relationship just not as exciting as when you first started dating or is the spark between the two of you completely gone? If you can’t see that spark reigniting, you have probably fallen out of love.

You doubt your feelings and the relationship.

When you’re in a happy and fulfilling relationship, you don’t second guess whether your partner is the right one for you. You have a feeling deep down in your soul that lets you know he or she is perfect for you. You don’t doubt their love for you and you certainly don’t doubt your love for them. If you find yourself thinking that there may be someone better out there for you, then this relationship may not be what you need in the long run. There is no way you can be completely in love someone, but always wonder “what if?” If you have been having those thoughts lately, it could just be cold feet as you look toward a future together or it could be your heart telling you this isn’t the guy or girl for you.

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About the Author

Elisa Freese
Elisa Freese is a lifelong New Yorker with a Bachelor’s degree from SUNY New Paltz and a Master’s degree from New York University. She has always had a love for writing and now that school and homework are finally done forever, Elisa is going back to writing on a regular basis. In addition to writing, Elisa loves anything that has to do with traveling, shopping, social media and TV/movies. With her experiences, as well as the experiences of her friends and family, Elisa hopes to shed some light on the ins and outs of dating to the readers of Nouveau Dating.

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