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May 7, 2013

Dating a Man with Kids – Part 2 of 5


Continued from Dating a Man with Kids – Part 1 of 5

Whether you are already dating a man with kids, are considering it or are simply interested in hearing more, this blog series is for you. Below is my second piece of crucial advice in a five-part series about what to expect when dating a man with children, including specific steps you can take to ensure a successful relationship for everyone involved.

 2. Meeting the Mother

This is a tricky area and I’ve heard it can be a blessing of a relationship for some, or a nightmare for others. In my personal situation, the other parent is not involved – which I know sounds unfortunate for the children – but because their dad has done an amazing job loving and caring for them, you wouldn’t know upon meeting them that they didn’t have two parents in their lives.  This situation actually makes my life a little easier.  For one, I don’t have to cultivate that sensitive relationship with my boyfriend’s former wife and mother of his children. I also don’t have to “report” to anyone but my boyfriend if I have an opinion on how the children are being raised. At the same time, it leaves room for pressure to fill that “mother absence,” especially if the children are very young. If you’re in my situation, talking to your significant other about boundaries is important from the get go, making sure you are both comfortable with your role in the kids’ lives.

However; if you do create a relationship with the other parent, tread carefully and sensitively. While you may fill the spot of stepmother someday, that other woman will always be their “real” mom.  The three of you are all adults and it’s important to keep an open line of communication in order to avoid stepping on anyone’s toes.

For more – check out Oprah’s interesting article on Things a Stepmother Should Never Say

Check back next Tuesday for part 3 of this series!

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About the Author

Angela Potrykus
A freelance writer based in Denver, Angela earned her M.A. in Journalism from the University of Missouri. She’s “that” friend who isn’t afraid to dish about the good, bad and, yes - the ugly - aspects of dating, relationships and sex. Angela looks forward to sharing her relationship advice through the use of humorous first, second and third-person accounts.

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