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May 14, 2013

Dating a Man with Kids – Part 3 of 5

Shielding-Yourself-From-Jabs

…Continued from Dating a Man with Kids – Parts 1 and 2

Whether you are already dating a man with children, are considering it or are simply interested in hearing more, this blog series is for you. Below is my third piece of crucial advice in a five-part series about what to expect when dating a man with children, and the steps you can take to ensure a successful relationship for everyone involved.

 

2. Shielding Yourself from the “Jokes” and “Jabs”

I have heard them all:

Don’t you feel trapped with all that baggage?

Do the children call you mom yet? (snickering)

How do you keep the romance alive?

Why would you want to date someone with kids? You’re so young…

Though your family may consider these questions “helpful” and friends may deem them as simple “jokes,” statements like these can really wear a person down. You can and should appreciate people who are looking out for your well-being. Though, there comes a time when you as an adult must decide for yourself what dating this man – and his children – means to you.

From an outsider’s point of view, dating someone who has “baggage” such as children can seem like a pretty obvious risk not worth taking. But in my dating experience (I have had my fair share for being age 26), I have learned that everyone has “baggage,”  whether it’s a psycho ex-girlfriend, a terrible immediate family, a history of substance abuse or an extreme opinion about….anything. But seriously, pick your poison – because as you know, men are not perfect…by any means. By the way, I’m not at all trying to suggest that a dating past drug-abuser and dating a single dad are the same thing.  What I am saying is that in the end, you must decide for yourself what your relationship means to you. Ultimately, it’s about evaluating what you can and want to handle in another person, because there could always be a family member or friend playing the ” helpful critic.” Take any jokes and jabs with a grain of salt. If you don’t – you may end up prematurely dismissing what could have become a wonderful relationship that really works for you.

Check back next Tuesday for Part 4 of this series!

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About the Author

Angela Potrykus
A freelance writer based in Denver, Angela earned her M.A. in Journalism from the University of Missouri. She’s “that” friend who isn’t afraid to dish about the good, bad and, yes - the ugly - aspects of dating, relationships and sex. Angela looks forward to sharing her relationship advice through the use of humorous first, second and third-person accounts.




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