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December 5, 2013

Embarrassment Is Not the End of the World


During the first date, or the beginning stages of your relationship, it is normal to want to try to seem perfect and look as though  you have it all together. In spite of your attempts to do so, you may slip up at some point and embarrass yourself. This is O.K. We are all human and mess up every once in a while. Just because you may embarrass yourself in front of your new  love interest, it does not mean that it is the end of the world. In fact, showing that you are vulnerable and have flaws like everyone else, may make you even more attractive to them. Your mistakes and embarrassments could become a strong base for a long-lasting, healthy relationship. While this is exciting news, it is hard to live down the embarrassment in the moment. There are a few ways, though, to get through the embarrassing moment, move on, and continue to build your relationship.

Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

First, accept the fact that you are human and that you are going to make mistakes. This is especially true when first getting to know someone because you are nervous and may even be a little jittery. You can try to impress this person, and still allow your true self to come through. Everyone has their individual quirks that make them charming. You are allowed to show your quirks. If this person can’t appreciate them, that isn’t your problem.

Also, be aware that meeting someone new may come at a really awkward or embarrassing time. It is possible that you will meet this new person while tripping over your own feet or saying something a little too loudly. New relationships pop up at some really crazy times so accept the fact that it may not be a perfect, storybook introduction.

Embrace the Humor of the Situation

If you happen to find yourself in an embarrassing situation, like being caught with a little spinach in your teeth on the first date, learn to laugh it off. The fact that you are able to laugh at yourself will be attractive to most people. This is because everybody goes through the same experiences. They know how you are feeling, and they can appreciate the fact that you are able to laugh at yourself instead of shrinking away. Allow them to laugh with you as well. Being able to laugh at yourself also shows that you are confident in who you are.

Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable

Dating someone new is all about vulnerability. You are showing sides of yourself to this person who may not know anything about you, and that can be scary for both you. The humor that comes from the embarrassment of the situation may actually be an icebreaker or lighten the mood. Understand that you need to allow yourself to be vulnerable so you can really open up to this new relationship. You never know, one of these first embarrassing moments may be a good story to tell later in your relationship.

About the Author

Elizabeth Monsoor
Elizabeth Monsoor is currently working on her Bachelor of Fine Arts in dance at Cornish College of the Arts in Seattle, Washington. While Elizabeth pursues a career in dance, she has rediscovered her love for writing. When she is not in class or at rehearsals, Elizabeth enjoys actively commenting on episodes of reality television and tweeting her observations on relationships several times a day. She has an “eyes wide open” approach to dating, acting as an unofficial advisor and commentator on her friends’ relationships. Elizabeth hopes that her opinions on relationships and her love of sarcasm both entertain and inspire her readers.

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