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September 19, 2013

Is He Playing Games?


When you’re not official with someone, whether it’s a new relationship or something thats gone on for a while, it can be difficult to see the future of the relationship. What can make it even harder to see this are the mind games that both men and women play with each other, which can be time-wasters if you’re looking for something serious. So how can you tell if he’s playing games? Are you wasting your time with this guy or is there a more serious future for you two?

There are three things that he might be doing that can clue you in on how he feels. While these are not absolutes, they are usually a good way to help you decide to stick with the relationship or move on.

You’re Not His First Choice

If he’s interested in you as more than a fling, it should be easy for him to decide to hang out with you. He should want to spend time with you. This doesn’t mean that he should give up all of his free time for you, and you shouldn’t expect him to. However, if he’s constantly putting your time together aside for friends or other girls, you should be suspicious of his intentions. He might only want to hang out with you when there’s nothing better to do, and you never want to be someone’s back-up plan.

His Timing Isn’t Consistent

Does he randomly stop texting you? Or does he contact you at sketchy times? Part of this could just be what works for him and his schedule, but you should always be looking out for yourself. If he stops talking to you for several days, he might be trying to see how interested you are in him. He might even be testing to see if you try to text him first. And there could be nothing wrong with that. He might just want to see if you’re interested in him, but it could also mean he’s trying to see if he could use you when it is convenient for him instead of actually wanting to get to know you.

Also, his the timing of his texts could mean he just wants something physical. While it’s not always the case, spotty communication could mean that he only contacts you when he’s looking for a booty call. Especially beware of late night texts. Don’t panic if you get a few late night texts from him, but just be cautious and aware of the patterns of your interactions.

He’s Unclear About His Intentions

If he’s not serious about you, he might avoid being clear about the future of the relationship. He could do this a couple of ways. He might avoid the subject altogether or be flaky about it. If you flat-out ask about the future and he shys away, you might want to take some caution. He might also make plans to take you on dates or even tell you that he wants to date you, but if he never takes action, he could just be saying these things to string you along while he looks for something better.

Again, none of these are absolutes. He might be unclear about the future because he doesn’t know what he wants and he’s enjoying what you two have now. Just be aware and take a little bit of caution. If you want things to change, don’t be afraid to start the conversation. If he really cares about you, he won’t mind talking about it. And if he does mind, at least you’ll know to stop wasting your time.

About the Author

Elizabeth Monsoor
Elizabeth Monsoor is currently working on her Bachelor of Fine Arts in dance at Cornish College of the Arts in Seattle, Washington. While Elizabeth pursues a career in dance, she has rediscovered her love for writing. When she is not in class or at rehearsals, Elizabeth enjoys actively commenting on episodes of reality television and tweeting her observations on relationships several times a day. She has an “eyes wide open” approach to dating, acting as an unofficial advisor and commentator on her friends’ relationships. Elizabeth hopes that her opinions on relationships and her love of sarcasm both entertain and inspire her readers.

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