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Dating Advice For Women

March 4, 2014

Allow Growth In Your Relationship

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There comes a point in a developing relationship when you have to make a choice. You must decide if you are going to let your guard down and  allow the relationship to progress further, or if you are going to  remain detached and eventually push this person away. It can be scary to  open up and take that leap of faith with someone. When you do this, you are choosing to put yourself in a vulnerable position. You know that getting hurt is a very real possibility and you are putting yourself in a place where this can easily happen. Allowing yourself to grow closer to someone is something that should not be taken lightly, but it is necessary for the success of a relationship.

Why is this? You have to be comfortable enough in the situation to let go and trust that this person will not hurt you. You have to believe that they will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. If you cannot trust each other, the relationship will never work. You cannot build a strong relationship on fear and doubt. We all have trust issues. That comes with dating, but if we let these issues control our lives, we will never allow ourselves to find happiness or love with another person. Learn to trust this person and let your guard down, but only when you are comfortable enough to do so. If you are deciding whether to take this leap of faith, there are some important questions you should be asking yourself.

How Does He Act Around You?

When considering if it is time to drop your defenses, look at his behavior. It will tell you a lot about how serious he is about making this relationship work. Does he care about making you feel comfortable with him or is he only thinking about himself? How does he treat you or talk to you? Are you a priority to him or does it seem like he’s putting you on the back burner? Does he really care about you, or are you just another option for him? While you may not be able to answer all of these questions, trust that in your heart, you know the answer. The human body is smart. It can pick up on nuances in someones behavior and clue you in before you figure it out for yourself. Trust your instincts.

Learn to Let Go 

If you feel that he is serious enough about this relationship to try to make it work, meet him half way by beginning to let your guard down and trust him. This doesn’t need to be done all at once. Take baby steps. Maybe start by showing a little more effort or interest in progressing the relationship. Then begin to tell him how you feel about him. The more you show him that he has your trust, the more you will be able to grow this relationship together.

Know that there will always be risk involved in letting someone in, but don’t hide from this. Accept that you are willing to put yourself out there and know that you are a stronger person for doing so.

About the Author

Elizabeth Monsoor
Elizabeth Monsoor is currently working on her Bachelor of Fine Arts in dance at Cornish College of the Arts in Seattle, Washington. While Elizabeth pursues a career in dance, she has rediscovered her love for writing. When she is not in class or at rehearsals, Elizabeth enjoys actively commenting on episodes of reality television and tweeting her observations on relationships several times a day. She has an “eyes wide open” approach to dating, acting as an unofficial advisor and commentator on her friends’ relationships. Elizabeth hopes that her opinions on relationships and her love of sarcasm both entertain and inspire her readers.

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