New Relationship Energy (NRE) more commonly known as the honeymoon phase marks the time at the beginning of a relationship when two people are infatuated with one another. During this time all of your thoughts revolve around that person and your actions reflect this. Remember when you cleared your entire schedule for your new love without even realizing it? That’s right, you had NRE and it was amazing!
The great things about NRE are how much you learn about your new love and the habits you form during this phase of the relationship. Your every move is made with your love’s best interest in mind and you couldn’t be happier. You radiate happiness and everyone around you can see it. But as the name implies, new at some point becomes old and eventually these feelings fade. Now here’s the tricky part. More often than not, NRE fades for people at different times.
Let’s say, by some crazy chance, it happens for both of you at the same time. You both begin to realize all the things you haven’t been paying attention to over the last few months. You get a call from the gym asking if you want to continue your membership, you remember you haven’t talked to your best friend in a week and your apartment is a mess. Time to get things back in order! You both do your own thing for a little but easily maintain the connection you’ve had and continue having an amazing time together.
Now for the slightly more complicated. One of you feels like it’s time to take a step back, the NRE has faded and although you are still very interested or in love you are ready to get back to your routine. While one feels this way the other is still experiencing NRE and is confused by their loves changing behavior.
Since you’re reading this you will know how to avoid this possibly awkward time and smoothly transition to the next part in your relationship. It doesn’t matter who experiences fading NRE first, just talk about it! The key to moving past this change is communicating with each other. It is completely normal to feel like you should spend less time together and this should not be uncomfortable to say. If it happens to you first you don’t want your love to feel left in the dust with no idea of how you feel or feel like you’re treating them differently. And if it’s the other way around, know the love isn’t lost, their NRE just faded faster which is perfectly okay!
Don’t lose love from fading NRE! It’s only the beginning.
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