When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it’s natural to wonder what else is out there. The grass is always greener, right? Maybe you’ve found a work buddy to flirt with or you’re just getting some extra attention at the bar on girls’ night. These interactions are usually innocent and don’t lead to anything but what’s the line between flirtation and cheating?
Look, Don’t Touch
The way I figure it, if your boyfriend doesn’t mind if you watch Magic Mike, he can’t fault you for looking at cute guys in real life either. So feel free to appreciate that Channing Tatum lookalike at the gym, just don’t let it go any further than that. You don’t suddenly go blind when you’re in a relationship so it’s unreasonable to expect to never find anyone else attractive.
How Would He Feel?
If your guy saw you talking to that hottie at the bar, would he be justifiably upset? Of course, many men are irrationally jealous but some simply don’t like their girlfriends flirting with other dudes. If you’re all over a guy that’s not your guy, imagine what how he would feel. Unless you’re a monster, you don’t want to intentionally hurt or deceive him, so keep yourself in check when your significant other isn’t around.
How Would You Feel?
Imagine some random girl is flirting with your man: touching him every chance she gets, laughing hysterically at all of his jokes, twirling her hair. You’d be pissed right? More than that, you’d be hurt. If you don’t want to feel that way, why would you do that him? We’ve learned it since childhood, it’s the Golden Rule.
If you’ve thought about all this and still feel the need to search elsewhere for flirtation, maybe it’s time to take a long, hard look at your relationship. There’s probably an underlying reason as to why you’re looking outside the relationship for male attention. A reason that you need to understand before you hurt your boyfriend…and yourself.