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September 24, 2013

What to Do Before You Cheat

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There’s a website called AshleyMadison.com that connects its members (both single and attached) with married people. It’s basically for people who want to have an affair outside of their marriage. There are many different kinds of dating sites nowadays, but why is there one with millions of users that encourages people to be unfaithful?

If you’re unhappy in your current relationship, married or not, cheating is never the answer. There are a number of ways you can attempt to improve your relationship before you cheat.

Evaluate
Before you do anything crazy, sit down and make a pros and cons list about the state of your relationship. Then think about the qualities you would want in a perfect relationship and compare the two lists. It’s important to know what you want and what you’re actually getting before starting a dramatic, divisive fight or starting an affair. Having a clear understanding of your thoughts and feelings will help you determine how to move forward with your partner.

Communicate
The easiest thing to do to talk to your partner. If you’re not getting something you need or you’re unhappy, you should feel comfortable expressing yourself. If your partner loves you and respects for you and your relationship, you guys have a good chance of working it out. Remember: a relationship should always be two-sided and your feelings should always be accounted for.

Therapy
If both of you are committed to the relationship and you can’t seem to resolve your issues on your own, find a professional who can help. Don’t be ashamed if you need couples therapy. It shows you’re both dedicated to keeping your relationship alive. You might have some problems, but the love is still there and you want to keep it there. Talking to a neutral third party might give both of you some insight about what you can do to get the spark back.

Break Up
If you’ve exhausted every possible avenue and you still haven’t been able to resolve your issues, it might be time to throw in the towel. If you’re miserable, even if you still love your partner, is it really worth it? You might think that AshleyMadison.com has the answer to your problems, but it doesn’t. You might end up with someone completely different than your current significant other, but you shouldn’t be browsing the market while you’re still attached. Sever the ties with your partner before you start the search for your next one.

Long story short: There is no need to cheat on your partner. Would you want to be cheated on? No matter what, there are other options. They might not be the most appealing or easiest options available to you, but anything is better than cheating.





About the Author

Elisa Freese
Elisa Freese is a lifelong New Yorker with a Bachelor’s degree from SUNY New Paltz and a Master’s degree from New York University. She has always had a love for writing and now that school and homework are finally done forever, Elisa is going back to writing on a regular basis. In addition to writing, Elisa loves anything that has to do with traveling, shopping, social media and TV/movies. With her experiences, as well as the experiences of her friends and family, Elisa hopes to shed some light on the ins and outs of dating to the readers of Nouveau Dating.




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