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January 7, 2014

3 Dating Promises You Have to Make to Yourself

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With the new year comes new resolutions, or, if you don’t make resolutions, simply the re-evaluation of the various aspects of your life. Maybe you’ll choose to look at your love life specifically. You may find yourself asking questions like, “Why did my last relationship end? Am I dating the right people? What do I even want?” These are all important questions to consider as you try to figure out where you stand in your dating timeline.

After examining your past few relationships or dates, you might want to make some changes to how you approach a new romantic interest or promising relationship. Sometimes changing your attitude or approach is all you need to get a boost in your love life. Try making these three promises to yourself as you enter this new year.

Be a Little Selfish

It’s absolutely acceptable to look out for yourself when dating. After all, if you don’t take care of yourself, who will? You’re allowed to be careful with your heart and your life and you don’t have to apologize for doing so. If you aren’t feeling comfortable around a new interest or in certain situations, trust your gut and let yourself to step back. Give yourself the time to figure things out. Don’t feel pressured to please someone else. Make sure whatever you choose is right for you.

Don’t Take Any Crap

Looking out for yourself means that you don’t need to deal with anything you don’t want to. If your new flame wants to play games and you don’t feel like wasting your time, don’t. Spend time with someone who wants the same things as you.

If you’re already in a relationship and your partner doesn’t seem to respect you or is acting sketchy lately, address the situation. If your partner doesn’t seem to care about how you feel, know that you can make the decision to benefit yourself and move on. Do what’s best for you.

Don’t Hold Back

Be brave in your decisions. If you’re happy with someone, embrace it fully. Don’t hold yourself back because you’re afraid to care too much. Be the partner that you want to be.

Similarly, if you are having issues in your relationship, don’t be afraid to confront your partner. Express your feelings. If you choose to end the relationship, be bold in that decision. Being wishy-washy in your relationship just causes more problems.

While you might not make these same dating promises to yourself, try to make positive promises or goals for yourself as you continue to search for love. Also, try to consistently re-evaluate these for yourself. Every relationship or date should be a learning experience not only about your interaction with someone, but also about who you are as a person. Always let yourself keep growing.


About the Author

Elizabeth Monsoor
Elizabeth Monsoor is currently working on her Bachelor of Fine Arts in dance at Cornish College of the Arts in Seattle, Washington. While Elizabeth pursues a career in dance, she has rediscovered her love for writing. When she is not in class or at rehearsals, Elizabeth enjoys actively commenting on episodes of reality television and tweeting her observations on relationships several times a day. She has an “eyes wide open” approach to dating, acting as an unofficial advisor and commentator on her friends’ relationships. Elizabeth hopes that her opinions on relationships and her love of sarcasm both entertain and inspire her readers.

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