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February 20, 2014

5 Things to Consider on a First Date


First dates are usually hit or miss. You walk into it and have absolutely no idea how it’ll go. Some people go into first dates oozing with confidence, while some go into them nervous as all hell. Will I like this person? Will this person like me? Will there be a lull in conversation and if so, what do I do?

But what happens when you’re actually on the date? What are some of the things to pay attention to in order to gauge how well the date is going and if your new friend will make it to date number two?  The whole point of the date is to get to know a new person and you should absolutely keep an open mind during your time together. Take a look below for some things to consider as you embark on your next first date.

How’s the First Impression?

First impressions shouldn’t necessarily be the end-all, be-all of first dates, but they definitely matter. Be a little superficial and take in everything you see visually. Are you physically attracted to your date? Do you like their style? We tend to be a very visual species, so it’s okay to take notice of those things right off the bat. After all, if this goes well, you have to be able to see yourself out and about with this person. On the flip side though, don’t necessarily write off someone if their style doesn’t impress you. Still try to get to know your companion a little bit before kicking them to the curb because they showed up to your date in dusty jeans and a wrinkled tee.

Are You The Focus of Their Attention?

Does your date genuinely look interested in you? Or are they sitting at the dinner table, looking at their phone or around the room every few seconds? This is your chance to get to know each other and if they aren’t even trying, think twice about a second date. Of course, their mind could be preoccupied with something else, but if you think they just don’t care about what you have to say, take the loss and move onto someone else

Are You Enjoying Yourself?

Are you actually having fun on this date? Are you able to keep the conversation going without pulling teeth? Your new friend might be drop-dead gorgeous, but if they lack social skills or bore you to tears, this probably isn’t the best match for you. For obvious reasons, you want someone who can bring out your fun side and who meshes well with your personality and lifestyle. If you don’t feel comfortable or you feel like the date was an emotional chore, don’t bother planning a second.

Do they fit your bill?

Sure, not everyone is going to be perfect, but how close to your definition of perfect does this person seem? Use the time to analyze what you want in your next partner and see how closely this person matches up. This is a great time to see if someone who is slightly different than your usual taste might be good for you. Dating is all about learning what you like and what you don’t like, and you do a whole lot of learning on first dates.

Does it Seem Like They Want Another Date or Just a Fling?

You might be deciding whether your date makes it to round two, but what if your date is just thinking about making it to the bedroom? If your date is keeping the conversation very light and acting overly flirtatious, maybe they’re just looking for a fling rather than a second date. If the date is leaning more towards meaningful, getting-to-know-you conversation, it’s pretty safe to say that they’re looking for a second date. Take note of vibes like this to try to decipher your date’s motives. Either way, make the best of it and have fun!


About the Author

Elisa Freese
Elisa Freese is a lifelong New Yorker with a Bachelor’s degree from SUNY New Paltz and a Master’s degree from New York University. She has always had a love for writing and now that school and homework are finally done forever, Elisa is going back to writing on a regular basis. In addition to writing, Elisa loves anything that has to do with traveling, shopping, social media and TV/movies. With her experiences, as well as the experiences of her friends and family, Elisa hopes to shed some light on the ins and outs of dating to the readers of Nouveau Dating.

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