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August 29, 2013

Ex Encounters

Girl and guy near the pond in the park

It’s never enjoyable when you have a close encounter with an ex. No matter how long it’s been, there always seems to be a bit of uneasiness, awkwardness and the ever-present jealousy if your old partner has found someone new.  This experience might not be fun but try not to dwell on the negative. Instead, turn it into something positive, or at the very least, bearable. Follow some of these tips when you have your next ex encounter.

  • Try to be as nonchalant as possible. Start a conversation to break the ice. Don’t jump into any serious conversations. Keep it light. Stick to something you can speak comfortably about like school or work (unless you work with your ex, which you should have known better than to get yourself into that situation!).
  • Regardless of the topic, hold your head high. Be confident but not overly prideful or cocky. You want to show your ex that even though you shared good and bad personal moments with one another, you’re still you. Don’t try to prove that you’re better without them or make a big show of how you’re doing now. Be attentive to their mood and body language. You should exude confidence. Show your ex that you’re happy and that you’re happy for them wherever they are in life. Life is far too short to dwell on one person, and you’ll most likely have many people that come and go before you find that special someone.
  • That being said, remember why the relationship with your ex didn’t work out. You might still have a bundle of emotions and feelings that you’re trying to figure out, but don’t get caught up trying to pursue this person again (at least not anytime soon). Depending on the length of time since the break-up, it’s always best to give yourself some alone time to sift through all of the emotional fallout. Remember the good and the bad that came along with your ex and where you are currently in your life. Would you really want to put yourself back into the same situation? If you’re thinking that things can change and be better this go-around, think again. Chances are that your ex is only alluring because of the memories you shared together. Think about the new memories you can make with promising new love interests.

You can make it through the awkward situation using these tips the next time you have an ex encounter. Keep in mind that this is just one short experience that everyone deals with at some point. If you stay positive and confident, the next encounter will be that much easier to get through.

About the Author

Marissa Barten
Marissa Barten is a Communication graduate from the University of Colorado in Denver. A native to Colorado and California she loves to travel and experience everything she can get her hands on. A Sicilian woman that is obsessed with music, video games, and loves to let her 'freak flag fly'! Check out what else Marissa is up to with her blog

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