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September 24, 2013

How Do You Feel About Him?


When you meet a new guy, you’re not always sure exactly where you want the relationship to go. Do you want to remain friends or do you want something more? As you try to figure it out, the lines can be blurred. Maybe on a few occasions you’ve gotten a little more intimate than friends would, but afterwards, you still weren’t sure how you felt about him. While feeling a relationship out is normal and absolutely acceptable, the longer it goes on, the more you need to figure out how you really feel about him. The longer you put it off, the more likely your relationship will choose for you. Make sure that you are comfortable with your choices and where it the relationship is headed, instead of looking back and wishing you had done something different. Here are some way to clue yourself in about how you really feel about him:

When You’re With Him
How you feel around him can give you clues about how you feel. Maybe you find yourself wanting to be more intimate with him. Maybe you don’t want him to leave, or you feel like you never have enough time with him. These can all be really clear signs that you want something more with him. But what if it’s the opposite? Maybe you feel uncomfortable about what will happen between the two of you. If you find yourself reluctant or afraid to get closer to him, emotionally and physically, you’re probably not into him in a romantic way. Pay attention to your actions and reactions to figure out how to proceed.

When You’re Not With Him
Even more important than how you feel around him is how you feel when you’re not around him. If you don’t find yourself missing him or wanting to hang out again, you probably don’t want to take things between you any further. Treat the relationship as a casual friendship. But maybe you’re itching to see him again. If you can’t want to hang out, you might be interested in him as something more than just a friend.

What Your Gut Says
Never underestimate the importance of listening to your gut. If you feel like you want something more, go for it. If you’re not sure, keep the relationship moving slowly and under control.  If it’s hard to tell what he wants, talk about it. If you don’t find yourself wanting something more, don’t stress. Have that conversation with him too. People can enjoy being around each other without needing a relationship or labeling their interaction. Make the relationship whatever you want it to be. It’s important that you’re both on the same page though, so be sure to communicate with him. Who knows? Maybe your friendship will grow into something more when the time is right.


About the Author

Elizabeth Monsoor
Elizabeth Monsoor is currently working on her Bachelor of Fine Arts in dance at Cornish College of the Arts in Seattle, Washington. While Elizabeth pursues a career in dance, she has rediscovered her love for writing. When she is not in class or at rehearsals, Elizabeth enjoys actively commenting on episodes of reality television and tweeting her observations on relationships several times a day. She has an “eyes wide open” approach to dating, acting as an unofficial advisor and commentator on her friends’ relationships. Elizabeth hopes that her opinions on relationships and her love of sarcasm both entertain and inspire her readers.

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