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December 18, 2012

The Real Thing


You’re past the first date jitters, the friendly connection, the relationship confirmation, and it looks like this might be a long-term deal. You want to express yourself, but you’re unsure if they feel the same way about you. To avoid an awkward and scarring encounter, make sure you’re reading the relationship right, before declaring your love for them. There should be a level of compatibility between you two on three levels:

Mentally: Through Actions

There should be genuine interest and concern for each other. This is an important factor in evaluating the quality of love in your relationship. You should both be willing to put forth extra effort to be supportive of each other, and do so happily. This means you both equally compromise for each other.

Physically: Through Intimacy

Physical compatibility is important. Everything from kissing to sex can become mundane and lose its spark, but if you still feel that same first-time rush despite being together for a while, then the chemistry between you two is strong enough to last.

Emotionally: Through Evolvement

A good relationship grows and deepens as you adapt and change together. When you get on different wavelengths, find different interests, or stop spending as much time together, the friction between you should be minimal. You’ve developed patience and respect for one another’s time, space, and needs, and accepted that they can change over time. This leads to minimal misunderstandings – a key factor in a healthy union.

Remember that expressing love leaves you vulnerable, so make sure that the other person is sending out the same vibes before you bring it up. If it is the real thing, know that defining love in a relationship is sometimes hard for a person to admit, regardless of the circumstances, so prepare for rocking the boat if you indeed choose to clarify your feelings. A good fall back if your feelings aren’t reciprocated is to laugh it off and offhandedly change subjects. Don’t force it – they’ll reciprocate when they’re ready.

About the Author

Samantha Daniel
Samantha Daniel is a Colorado native, attending Metro State University majoring in technical communication, with emphases in writing and editing. Her passion for relationships, dating, and romance unfolds in her articles.

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