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December 12, 2013

Why You Have to Stop Worrying About Being Single


I’m sure many of us have joked about ending up alone and only having a bunch of cats or dogs to keep us company. Most of us only joke about it, but if you’re one of the people who really think this will happen to you, you’re potentially hurting your chances of finding a great relationship.

A study done by researchers at the University of Toronto and published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology has found that people who are scared of ending up alone settle for bad relationships. It turns out that peoples’ anxieties about being alone are a huge factor in whether they stay in unhealthy relationships and these feelings are found in both genders. Males are just as likely as females to worry about ending up alone and settling for less-than-ideal partners or relationships.

Have you ever kept someone around because you were feeling lonely? Everyone has at least known someone who has done this. If you find yourself in this situation, try not to worry about being a spinster down the line. Here are some things to remember if you find yourself worrying about your long-term single status:

Enjoy Your Free Time as a Single Person

Instead of wasting time on a person who isn’t right for you, sever the ties and enjoy spending time on your own. Make dates with yourself or your friends and loved ones and do the things you love most. People in relationships sometimes miss this extra free time they had when they were single, so take advantage of it while you can! You’ll find a great partner in crime when the time is right and then you’ll get to spend that extra time together.

You Could Be Missing Out on Mr. or Mrs. Perfect

If you settle for a less-than-perfect relationship out of fear of being alone, you could be missing an opportunity to find a better match for yourself. You’re setting yourself up for nothing but disappointment and unhappiness if you stay in an unsatisfying or toxic relationship. Why waste the time on someone you’re lukewarm about when someone better is out there waiting for you?

You Deserve the Best

Don’t sell yourself short because you think you can’t find anyone better. It might take you months or even years to find someone you really connect with, but that’s just how life is. You won’t always get everything you want when you want it. Don’t let the fear of being alone bring you down. Life is too short to settle, so always keep your head up and make the most of your time on this planet with someone who is deserving of you and makes you feel special.

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About the Author

Elisa Freese
Elisa Freese is a lifelong New Yorker with a Bachelor’s degree from SUNY New Paltz and a Master’s degree from New York University. She has always had a love for writing and now that school and homework are finally done forever, Elisa is going back to writing on a regular basis. In addition to writing, Elisa loves anything that has to do with traveling, shopping, social media and TV/movies. With her experiences, as well as the experiences of her friends and family, Elisa hopes to shed some light on the ins and outs of dating to the readers of Nouveau Dating.

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