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December 10, 2012

How to Build Confidence


Self-esteem is at the root of successful seduction. I never encourage people to fake orgasms, but when it comes to sex appeal, whether you believe you exude it or not, fake it. The benefits of faking sexiness are twofold; first when we give off the aura of confidence we attract people to us. Second, in attracting people to us, we begin to feel desirable, sexy and self-assured.  This snowball effect just builds and builds until you stop faking it, and start living it.

Confidence radiates self-love, self-respect, and a general aura of well-being.  Confidence includes not only intangible elements but, also is displayed through tangible indicators such as gestures, posture, eye contact, attention to detail and more. Confidence is revealed not just in how one carries one’s self, body language, manners and facial expressions, confidence is manifested through actions and outlooks. If one is truly confident or even faking confidence, one is less concerned with the judgment of others.

Women are emotional beings. There are biological reasons why we cherish the guy who talks up his family, shows care and concern for others, and seems unaffected by the standards set by his peers. These qualities display the potential that a man has for being a good mate and father. A self-confident man shows he is his own man, unaffected by the need for masculine approval. His confidence comes from within and is not concocted from the approval of his friends.

Confidence, like other skill sets is learned, mastered and perfected not inborn. Flirting is a great way to display or depict confidence.  Being flirty should not be limited only towards those we want to pursue. On the contrary, when we flirt with everyone, subtly, we emit an air of self-assurance that will get us noticed in a crowd. In turn, we become more desirable, a key element in seduction.  By being flirty, you are sending out a social message that says, “I like who I am. I know who I am. You should want to know me”.

Confidence, whether in the bedroom or in the boardroom, is an invaluable quality and skill that leads to successful interpersonal relationships. Confidence allows you to ask for what you want and take risks. Whether you are sexy and you know it, or you have to fake it, put yourself out there with a smile, look people in the eye and get your flirt on. Before you know it, you will become a confident, desirable successful seducer.



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About the Author

Tiffany Jones
Tiffany Jones is the founder and CEO of Denver Sexology LLC. She is a registered psychotherapist and has been a sex and relationship coach for the last 11 years.

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