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February 6, 2014

5 Tips for Moving In Together


Let’s say you’re in a happy relationship. Everything is going great, but living apart from each other is either turning into a hassle or is just not something you want to do long-term. So, at some point or another the discussion about moving in together comes up. Are you guys ready for it? How will you react seeing your loved one’s face every single morning for the foreseeable future? Before you guys take the plunge into cohabitation, it’s important that you discuss a few things first. Once you tackle those issues, there are also a few things you both should keep in mind as time passes by in your new house or apartment.

Discuss your finances.

Moving in together means a lot in terms of money. You’ll be going from paying bills on your own (or not having any bills at all if you’ve been living with your parents) to splitting the responsibility with another person. Will you guys set up a joint account to pay your bills? Will you split certain utilities? Are you willing to splurge on cable TV? It’s things like these topics that need to be discussed with your partner early on. Be willing to compromise on certain things if need be, but always make sure financial matters don’t cause problems with your relationship.

Take each other’s needs and wants into consideration.

Now that you have yourself a new roomie, you have to make sure you guys are on the same page with things. You are no longer just focused on yourself and your own living situation. You have a constant companion and in order to have a happy live-in life together, try your best to take into consideration things like how they like certain things organized or even what TV show they want to watch that night. Living together can definitely result in some compromising, but in the end just remember to pick your battles carefully.

Make a list of household rules (and abide by them).

The two of you may have different views on cleaning and organizing, but make sure you come together and create some sort of agreement on these issues. Will you split up certain chores or will you tackle everything together? One rule I dealt with in college was deciding which way the toilet paper roll went into the holder. It may sound ridiculous, but it’s things like this that may bother some people (and it definitely did in my college house). This also applies to how you guys decorate your new place. Make sure you guys agree on an aesthetic and it doesn’t look more like a bachelor or bachelorette pad rather than a home of a loving couple.

Don’t stay home every night.

Everyone loves a lazy night in on the couch with a few good movies and some delicious takeout. Living together makes it so easy to be lazy and anti-social at times, but you have to remember that there is fun outside of your apartment or house. Don’t let date nights or nights out with friends get pushed to the side because it’s just easier to stay home and relax. Go try that restaurant or bar you’ve been meaning to go to in your neighborhood. Just make sure you do something!

It’s ok to spend some time apart.

Everyone (or mostly everyone) needs their alone time. Whether you use this time to go read a book in a different room, go take a bath or just go to the gym, make sure you have some time to yourself every now and then. It’ll keep you both sane and allow both parties to maintain a sense of self. However, this is not to say you should completely exile yourself from your partner. Even just a few minutes to yourself may be beneficial; it’s all dependent on your personality and your relationship.

All couples have different dynamics, so maybe not all of these tips are applicable to you. However, it is important to use this new living experience as a way to enhance and grow your relationship. It may take a lot of work in the beginning, but as long as you both are dedicated to the relationship everything will come together in the end.

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About the Author

Elisa Freese
Elisa Freese is a lifelong New Yorker with a Bachelor’s degree from SUNY New Paltz and a Master’s degree from New York University. She has always had a love for writing and now that school and homework are finally done forever, Elisa is going back to writing on a regular basis. In addition to writing, Elisa loves anything that has to do with traveling, shopping, social media and TV/movies. With her experiences, as well as the experiences of her friends and family, Elisa hopes to shed some light on the ins and outs of dating to the readers of Nouveau Dating.

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