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January 29, 2014

Learn to Love Your Partner’s Quirks

Young happy couple (kissing)

We are all individuals with our own set of unique behaviors. While you care deeply for our significant other, you guys probably don’t do many things the exact same way. If you are too set into your own routine, these little quirks about your partner can start to drive you crazy. It is absolutely okay to not be completely thrilled with your S.O. at all times, but it’s important not to let these little behaviors get to you so much that you lose it on your partner over petty details. Learn how to love the quirks instead of constantly putting your partner down because of them.


There are so many more important aspects to your relationship than your partner’s mildly irritating little habits. You don’t want to let your annoyance with something little and insignificant overpower the love that you feel for each other.  If you allow your irritation with little things to get to you often enough, you’ll start resenting every action your partner does, which is toxic and dangerous to the survival of your relationship. Look past the little things that annoy you and instead focus on finding a way to live with them.

Accept and Love

Instead of getting angry or annoyed the next time your partner does one of these things, try to think about it differently. Look at these little quirks as a part of who they are. You love this person; obviously you have no plans to break up simply because they don’t do things exactly the way you do. Why would you want someone just like you anyway? That would be so boring.

You can also redirect. Think of their traits in a positive way, as a way that your partner and their quirks complement you and your own little things. The next time they do something that annoys you, think about how your individual differences add balance to the relationship.

Role Reversal

And most importantly, put yourself in their shoes. You know that every person has their own quirks. Realize that you have them too, and there’s a really good chance that your partner doesn’t love all of yours. The important part is that you two love each other. Your little traits should be appreciated, not resented. Learn to celebrate each other and who you are.  Strengthen your relationship by accepting your differences and working forward from there.

About the Author

Elizabeth Monsoor
Elizabeth Monsoor is currently working on her Bachelor of Fine Arts in dance at Cornish College of the Arts in Seattle, Washington. While Elizabeth pursues a career in dance, she has rediscovered her love for writing. When she is not in class or at rehearsals, Elizabeth enjoys actively commenting on episodes of reality television and tweeting her observations on relationships several times a day. She has an “eyes wide open” approach to dating, acting as an unofficial advisor and commentator on her friends’ relationships. Elizabeth hopes that her opinions on relationships and her love of sarcasm both entertain and inspire her readers.

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