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February 11, 2014

So You Just Got Engaged. Now What?


The moment you’ve been dreaming about since you were a little girl has just happened. The man of your dreams has proposed to you. You look down at your hand now and see a beautiful ring picked out by the man you love (or maybe you picked it out, but you get my point). But what do you do right after you get engaged? How do you go about telling your family and friends? At what point do you actually have to sit down and start planning and budgeting out a wedding?

I just recently got engaged and let me tell you, it is a whirlwind experience. I honestly didn’t know what to think or say or who to contact first. I didn’t know the slightest thing about weddings and getting engaged and what I was supposed to do from that moment on. I had imagined having a month or two before getting into the nitty gritty of wedding planning and that all went right out the door when I heard how quickly venues and churches and all these different types of vendors book up quickly. That being said let me run you through some of the things I learned right after my engagement.

Soak it all in.

Look at what just happened! You’re getting married! No matter where you are when you get engaged, just make sure you have some time to soak it all in. I found myself staring at my hand the entire week after we got engaged (and I sometimes still catch myself doing it) because I couldn’t believe it actually happened. Getting engaged is really one of the craziest and most exciting times of your life, so however you choose to spend the first few days and weeks of your engagement is up to you. Just make sure you enjoy it all and toast to your future together.

Decide who you want to tell first and how.

In this social media driven world, make sure you know how you want to go about notifying all the important people in your life. My fiancé surprised me with our parents, siblings and my best friend at the restaurant we met at on the day we got engaged, so that part was easy for me. As long as these people knew first, I didn’t care what got posted on the Internet after that. If you guys feel most comfortable posting a big Facebook blast, go for it. If you want to go see your parents and grandparents before issuing a social media update, go for it. And if you happen to be with people on the day it happens and you don’t want something being posted, just tell them to hold off until you get a chance to see or tell certain people.

Expect some ridiculous questions.

I’m pretty sure I was asked when and where I was going to get married within a week of getting engaged. What kind of dress do you want? What colors do you want? As if I knew anything about any of those things. Then you’ll have the people who ask how much the ring costs or how big your rock is. If it’s someone close, then tell them if you want, but if it’s someone you’re not very close with tread carefully. These sorts of questions can make conversations awkward very quickly, so just be sure you pay attention to who you share these details with. It’s no one’s business but you and your fiancé’s so don’t let people trap you into these awkward conversations no matter who they are.

Start to put some thought into things like dates, venues and budgets.

I thought I was going to have some time off to just bathe in the glory of being engaged, but that just didn’t happen. It is actually crazy how quickly venues book up and if you have your heart set on a specific season or date, you better get to work. Don’t drive yourself crazy over it, but take the time to really think about the type of venue you want or if you want a destination wedding. Going hand in hand with dates and venues is your budget. The budget is easily the most important thing about your wedding and once you know how much money you have to spend, everything will become a little easier.

There are a ton of things to think about when you first get engaged and these are just a handful of them. The important thing is to do whatever works for you and your fiancé. You may want to wait a few months before getting down to work on venues and budgets and that’s totally fine. As long as you guys are happy with your engagement timeline, that’s all that matters.

About the Author

Elisa Freese
Elisa Freese is a lifelong New Yorker with a Bachelor’s degree from SUNY New Paltz and a Master’s degree from New York University. She has always had a love for writing and now that school and homework are finally done forever, Elisa is going back to writing on a regular basis. In addition to writing, Elisa loves anything that has to do with traveling, shopping, social media and TV/movies. With her experiences, as well as the experiences of her friends and family, Elisa hopes to shed some light on the ins and outs of dating to the readers of Nouveau Dating.

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